Conversations.

Him: I just don't like you this way. 
Her: Me neither.

and yet she couldn't help inhaling that smoke. If only he understood how it helps her to let go of that messed up head, of the shitty things life has given her way, of the fact that he doesn't belong to her, of the things which did injustice to her life, of the things which are still not  right. But she smokes because one day, maybe.. just maybe, she'd have it all. Especially him.

Picture courtesy: @i_typewriter

Such complicated love..

Things would have been so much easier if love was as easy and simple as its spelling is. But well, it doesn't go that way. 

You know, I have always believed that love can happen not only once, but again and again. I think love has a certain degree of intensity. And everytime we love, we're at different degrees. We explore such feelings and intensity which we felt never before. Everytime we love, we reach some degree of love. At times, stronger, and at times, weaker. But the love is there. And it would still be called love. 

I know it sounds confusing and hard to understand. But recall the feelings of love, you've ever felt? And no, i am not taking about infatuation here.  

We all love not just once but many times in life. Some we forget, some we tend to hold on. And that's what i am talking about. If you're still holding on to your feelings for someone, who might or might not be present in your life, you sure can fall in love again.  Love doesn't ask for permission now does it? It just happens. In a moment. Suddenly. Without expectations. Even during worse of the times. 

And eventually, we can live and we do live by loving so many people at one time. Here, i am referring to family. But otherwise, i believe love could happen, at a time, with two different people.  And it doesn't apply that we cheat with out partners or spouse, no. Not at all. It just means you've that sacred feeling for someone. Or a few of them. Sounds funny, yeah? Sometimes it's just hard to put in words what exactly you feel. And trust me, words don't do justice. Not most of the times. I know the concept is complicated and difficult to understand and not digestible to most of us. But this is just my opinion and believe and i don't expect people to conform with me.

Anyways, call me stupid or crazy. I still believe love just happens. With two people. At the same time. 

But then, the way our society thinks and works? Reading all of this would only lead those minds to nowhere but cheating. Cheating on your spouse. Boyfriends/girlfriends. But i never said to cross the limits, did i? We can always love and draw some boundaries. Its such a sacred pure feeling. Why would you want to loose it? I believe in cherishing the memories. Small good memories. And we all should hold on to such moments. Forever.

p.s. I hope the post isn't too confusing. 

p.p.s. If it is, don't bother complaining. I just wrote what i wanted.

This picture isn't my property. I just got it from the internet. :)

21 Tips to Become the Most Productive Person You Know

This piece is written by Robin Sharma. I read it on his blog and found it worth sharing!

I wanted to help you create explosive productivity so you get big things done (and make your life matter).

Here are 21 tips to get you to your best productivity.

#1. Check email in the afternoon so you protect the peak energy hours of your mornings for your best work.

#2. Stop waiting for perfect conditions to launch a great project. Immediate action fuels a positive feedback loop that drives even more action.

#3. Remember that big, brave goals release energy. So set them clearly and then revisit them every morning for 5 minutes.

#4. Mess creates stress (I learned this from tennis icon Andre Agassi who said he wouldn’t let anyone touch his tennis bag because if it got disorganized, he’d get distracted). So clean out the clutter in your office to get more done.

#5. Sell your TV. You’re just watching other people get successful versus doing the things that will get you to your dreams.

#6. Say goodbye to the energy vampires in your life (the negative souls who steal your enthusiasm).

#7. Run routines. When I studied the creative lives of massively productive people like Stephen King, John Grisham and Thomas Edison, I discovered they follow strict daily routines. (i.e., when they would get up, when they would start work, when they would exercise and when they would relax). Peak productivity’s not about luck. It’s about devotion.

#8. Get up at 5 am. Win the battle of the bed. Put mind over mattress. This habit alone will strengthen your willpower so it serves you more dutifully in the key areas of your life.

#9. Don’t do so many meetings. (I’ve trained the employees of our FORTUNE 500 clients on exactly how to do this – including having the few meetings they now do standing up – and it’s created breakthrough results for them).

#10. Don’t say yes to every request. Most of us have a deep need to be liked. That translates into us saying yes to everything – which is the end of your elite productivity.

#11. Outsource everything you can’t be BIW (Best in the World) at. Focus only on activities within what I call “Your Picasso Zone”.

#12. Stop multi-tasking. New research confirms that all the distractions invading our lives are rewiring the way our brains work (and drop our IQ by 5 points!). Be one of the rare-air few who develops the mental and physical discipline to have a mono-maniacal focus on one thing for many hours. (It’s all about practice).

#13. Get fit like Madonna. Getting to your absolute best physical condition will create explosive energy, renew your focus and multiply your creativity.

#14. Workout 2X a day. This is just one of the little-known productivity tactics that I’ll walk you through in my new online training program YOUR PRODUCTIVITY UNLEASHED (details at the end of this post) but here’s the key: exercise is one of the greatest productivity tools in the world. So do 20 minutes first thing in the morning and then another workout around 6 or 7 pm to set you up for wow in the evening.

#15. Drink more water. When you’re dehydrated, you’ll have far less energy. And get less done.

#16. Work in 90 minute blocks with 10 minute intervals to recover and refuel (another game-changing move I personally use to do my best work).

#17. Write a Stop Doing List. Every productive person obsessively sets To Do Lists. But those who play at world-class also record what they commit to stop doing. Steve Jobs said that what made Apple Apple was not so much what they chose to build but all the projects they chose to ignore.

#18. Use your commute time. If you’re commuting 30 minutes each way every day – get this: at the end of a year, you’ve spent 6 weeks of 8 hour days in your car. I encourage you to use that time to listen to fantastic books on audio + excellent podcasts and valuable learning programs. Remember, the fastest way to double your income is to triple your rate of learning.

#19. Be a contrarian. Why buy your groceries at the time the store is busiest? Why go to movies on the most popular nights? Why hit the gym when the gym’s completely full? Do things at off-peak hours and you’ll save so many of them.

#20. Get things right the first time. Most people are wildly distracted these days. And so they make mistakes. To unleash your productivity, become one of the special performers who have the mindset of doing what it takes to get it flawless first. This saves you days of having to fix problems.

#21. Get lost. Don’t be so available to everyone. I often spend hours at a time in the cafeteria of a university close to our headquarters. I turn off my devices and think, create, plan and write. Zero interruptions. Pure focus. Massive results.

I truly hope these 21 productivity tips have been valuable to you. And that I’ve been of service. Your productivity is your life made visible. Please protect it.

Stay productive. :)



Source: http://www.robinsharma.com

New years greetings!

Thank you people for being part of the wonderful year. 2012 brought many ups & downs for me, usually ups. Thanks to all you awesome people to make things so much better and the downs so bearable. I'm glad i got to know who my true friends are. Thank you for sticking by my side and for listening all the crap i talked and giving me such cherishable memories. ♥ And for everyone else, thank you for being my friends and a part of my roller coaster life!

Hope your roller coaster ride is as chocolaty and sweet as mine. Looking forward to meet more people, make new stories and add more chapters in my memory book. And since, it would be my graduating year, i am more than excited. I have plans to travel once i am done with this last semester. As for now, after my exams, I've got so many books lined up. So January would be a good month reading wise. :)

And well. I'd try to post more often. My schedule just keeps me so busy. I hope i'd get a relief from Spring semester since i'd be taking less courses. I plan to read more novels as i already mentioned and also because  i got a few from KIBF. And yes, i'd write a review on each. 

Oh, and i have yet to make a new resolution. You can read my last year's resolution here:

http://sadiyazhar.tumblr.com/post/39339109419/this-was-my-2012s-new-year-resolution-yet-to

What's  your new year's resolution? :)

And well, check this picture i came across on 9GAG facebook page:

I found it cute and funny lol! Well, till next time.. take much care!

Thanks for visiting. :) Have a blessed new year!

Christmas and some memories..

My eyes yearn to see a lovely decorated christmas tree. Reminds me of the times when we used to travel. Christmas time is so fun in western side. Lots of shopping. Lots of love. [Chocolates too] and then, you get discounts on almost everything! And the lovely songs.

I remember once when we were UK, in a mall, this lady came to us with a tray of wine glasses and offered it to us. The samplig/testing for free. She was dressed as an elf, looked totally pretty. We didn’t try the drinks. But i wanted to. Not for the sake of drinking. But for the sake of sharing the happiness. Everyone was so joyous. Oh, and i got free chocolates that day. We roamed around and did some shopping. I like how the prices go down instead of going up (like they do in Pakistan during Eid lol). 

and now i miss my school. I remember how i bought a christmas gift for my Vice Principal from there. She was so touched and from that year on, she always invited me on Christmas party at her place. And i remember how i was the one who sang, Jingle bells in the class, because others didn’t know the lyrics well. LOL. And when i was a kid and in a different school, my christian friends used to give me greeting cards on every Eid. They were so sweet and thoughtful. I literally miss those days. Such cherishable memories.  

And seriously, why can’t we celebrate all the good occasions? If those christian friends could wish me on Eid then why can’t i wish them on their festivals? It’s just sharing the happiness and love after all. No ones asking you to share or sacrifice your beliefs. But i don’t know. People make these things a matter of life and death. Matter of strong faith and beliefs. But they don’t understand that if you get happy in someone’s happiness, you are not necessarily agreeing with what they believe. Your faith is a matter between you and your God. For once if we just think of the greater good, and act human with all the humans, how cool would that be, right? 

Well. On that note, Merry Christmas to all my friends who are celebrating the happiness and love.:) xx 

p.s. This was posted on my tumblr and facebook on the christmas day. So i thought to add it on the blog too.

p.p.s. Here is the link to my tumblr : sadiyazhar.tumblr.com

Smile..

So i advice something to a friend today. A good friend who is going through tough times. I liked what i ended up writing. So i thought i should share. :)

"Everyone of us face issues. Sadness is a part of life. Well, i hope you cope up with it pretty soon. Some emotions are just too strong. Overwhelming. And the one who suffers through it, only knows how it feels. But well, i hope you get out of it soon. And don't let sadness control you. its just a part of you, your life. Don't let it reflect your image, because that's not you. You're more than that. And there's a huge mountain of emotions. Don't coat it with the sadness. Let it out."

And well, Smile.. because it can work wonders! :)

Complex like a chocolate bar!

There comes a time in life when you realize your own mistakes and you cant help regretting your acts. Some actions are deliberately done but some happened, unintentionally, unplanned. And if such mistakes make you regret your actions, what's the better way of getting away with the feeling? Repeat the action again and give a chance to that mistake to become correct? Or accept what happened and realize that it was never meant for you and move on?

Some decisions, as much simple as they seem, are contrastingly quite twisted and tangled. They work as eye opener at times. But they make you more confuse too. 

And at that crucial stage, when you're surrounded by lots of important decisions to be taken care of, the more you try to focus on things and prioritize them, the more you loose concentration and your thoughts keep getting scattered which adds up to the problems. 

In such a situation, what's the best way out? Deal with the flood of problems? Or just stay calm and build an ignorance boundary around you and be indifferent?

Yes. Life is complicated at times! And what i decided to do was, sort out the problems one by one. I ignored the main problems of my life, the things which might turn my life upside down or atleast give a shaking jolt to my life, were ignored. May be it wasn't a wise decision, many people might think that. But it helped me in prioritizing. I knew i'd waste time in solving things which were just not in my hands so i focused on the immidiate issues, got them solved and smiled.. Yes, i smiled. Even during the most crucial times of my life, i always thank God for everything. I am thankful that wherever i stand now is far more better than the place i was standing earlier. Every passing day, i am more closer to achieving my goals, more close to something better. That makes me smile and motivates me. And all these things, some ignorance and some chocolates keeps me going! :)